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Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Tertia's Book Shower

Whoops, I'm a day late with this post but I suppose I have a decent excuse when I say I spend my daytime hours at the hospital with my babies, my late afternoon hours with my two year old and my evening hours back at the hospital. There are definitely some spare moments here and there but I guess my mind was preoccupied. So, now I sit here in the wee hours of the morning pumping away and writing this post.

First, I'd like to raise my virtual glass of red wine to Tertia and congratulate her on writing the first non-fiction book I've read in a long time. It was compelling, well-written and there were many places in the book that I could relate back to my own experiences dealing with infertility. It is an inspirational story along with a great resource about infertility in general.

The lovely hostess of this party, Melissa of Stirrup Queens has asked us to chat about a question she has posed. So I'd like to talk about this one because it actually also applies to my current situation (2 preemies in the Special Care unit)...

Tertia has an urge to chat with the others in her clinic waiting room. Do you ever wish people would break into spontaneous, supportive conversation? Describe your ideal waiting room.

I think I can quite safely say that I totally agree with Tertia on this topic. I would often sit in the waiting room looking around at the other people and wondering why they were there, what they were going through and how we might be able to help each other out. I feel the same way now as I hold and feed my babies in the Special Care unit at the hospital. I see the other parents and I want to talk to them but other than one or two of the Moms, they all seem to closed off. I figure we are all in the same boat experiencing the same awful highs and lows so who better to vent to and cry with. So I think my ideal waiting room for either of these situations would be one that gave off a feeling of relaxation and safety. One that people made people feel like they weren't going to be judged in any possible way and allowed them to open up and share their experiences and emotions with the other people sitting there.

For me, like Tertia, I found that connection with people online. I started a thread on a message board looking for people who were going through IVF at the same time I was and I found a wonderful group of women. Although the paths we took through the land of infertility were all a bit different in the end, we now all have children and have kept in touch. They were, and continue to be, invaluable support to me. Perhaps some day people will be able to do the same thing face-to-face in the waiting room.

Now it is your turn to answer a question...Whose blog would you most like to see turn into a book?

If you would like to buy Tertia's book, So Close, you can find it at Amazon.


loribeth said...

Best excuse ever, & better late than never. : ) I too found it difficult to open up to other women in the waiting room, although some were chattier than others. Online support was my salvation!

nonlineargirl said...

I am a talker, so I always want to talk to and hear from other people in the waiting rooms. I found that this was not an appreciated quality at the fertility doc's office. Maybe in the special care unit it is different?